| You cannot imagine the number of times I have sat | | | | admiration other women bestow on him, and feels he |
| and listened to women cry with excruciating pain | | | | is a prize to be won. In this case, she maintains him |
| over being taken for granted after being in an | | | | because he looks good on her arm-he is her trophy. |
| unhealthy relationship, supporting an estranged lover | | | | 2. The Lover Boy. This personality type is usually a |
| financially. I have seen first-hand results of women | | | | "roaming Romeo." He is a lady's man in the truest |
| walking around with broken hearts and empty wallets | | | | sense. He is very charming and smooth. It's no secret |
| because of giving too much and not getting enough | | | | that he has many women, but she wants to be the |
| in return. In anguish they reflect, "I don't understand | | | | one woman who conforms or reforms him into |
| what went wrong. I gave him everything I had. How | | | | monogamy. This gives her a sense of being number |
| could he have walked out on me after I took such | | | | one and having the edge over the others. In this |
| good care of him?" | | | | case, she maintains him because she feels special to |
| What is extremely unfortunate and sad in these | | | | be able to pry him away from other women-he is |
| cases is, the women feel that they have to earn a | | | | her ego booster. |
| man's love by buying it. They do not believe they are | | | | 3. The Joy Boy. If you looked in the dictionary under |
| capable or worthy of being loved simply because of | | | | "sex appeal," you would find this hunk described to |
| who they are, so they attempt to get the man's | | | | the letter. He possesses a sensuous and natural |
| love by what they can give-in this case it's their | | | | animal magnetism. He is clean yet rugged, rude yet |
| hard-earned money. | | | | alluring. He is an intoxicating blend of fire and ice-with |
| Keep in mind, I'm not referring to a healthy | | | | a mesmerizing sexual attraction that bids you "come |
| give-and-take relationship where you help each other | | | | hither." In this case, she maintains him because he |
| along the way; I'm talking about the unbalanced, | | | | satisfies her sexually-he is her sex object. |
| lopsided loving, where the woman is the meal ticket | | | | 4. The Toy Boy. He is much younger than she is. She |
| for the type of guy who just sits around and plan | | | | feels privileged because with all the younger women |
| how to get paid by always borrowing money from | | | | out there, he has chosen to be with her. In most |
| her and never paying back, or always "in-between" | | | | cases, the woman has had to work hard all her life |
| jobs, but never really working. The scheming gigolo | | | | and never had a chance to enjoy her own youth. He |
| gives decent men a rotten name and unsuspecting | | | | makes her feel as if she is making up for what she |
| women a rotten game. This practice is more | | | | missed earlier. She feels rejuvenated, vital, and young |
| common than you can image. Many of the | | | | again. In this case, she maintains him because he |
| modern-day, macho gold-diggers openly admit, "Why | | | | helps to recapture her youth-he is her fountain of |
| should I sweat at a nine-to-five job when I can get a | | | | youth. |
| 'Honey' to dish out some money?" | | | | If you're in a "pay for play" unhealthy relationship |
| To give you a deeper understanding and to make | | | | where you are allowing yourself to be used as a |
| sure you never get fooled into paying for love, I've | | | | cash-machine for a gigolo, stop fooling yourself that |
| surveyed three hundred (300) women to find out | | | | everything is hunky-dory. It won't be when the |
| what compelled them to pay for a man's presence in | | | | "hunk-y" walks out the "door-y" and leaves you |
| their lives. Keep in mind, some of the women | | | | broke, alone, and sorry. Any time you have to pay a |
| surveyed have been jilted by men they have kept in | | | | man to love you, no matter how subtle the |
| the past, and others are presently in relationships | | | | payment, something is wrong. Take stock of |
| with men they are financially supporting. I received an | | | | yourself and place a high value on yourself. Realize |
| interesting range of responses, but I have arranged | | | | that you deserve to have a compassionate and |
| them into four categories. Each of these personality | | | | compatible man who thinks well enough of you to |
| types has either covertly or overtly persuaded the | | | | look out for your best interest-instead of one who |
| women to use finance to maintain his romance: | | | | tries to squeeze your finances dry like an orange in a |
| 1. The Cover Boy. He is incredibly handsome. He is | | | | juice extractor. Lose the user, and choose a |
| also referred to as a "pretty boy." She is swept | | | | champion because you deserve a healthy relationship! |
| away by his exceptionally good looks. She enjoys the | | | | |