| You cannot imagine the number of times I have | | | | looks. She enjoys the admiration other women |
| sat and listened to women cry with | | | | bestow on him, and feels he is a prize to be |
| excruciating pain over being taken for | | | | won. In this case, she maintains him because |
| granted after being in an unhealthy | | | | he looks good on her arm-he is her trophy. |
| relationship, supporting an estranged lover | | | | |
| financially. I have seen first-hand results | | | | 2. The Lover Boy. This personality type is |
| of women walking around with broken hearts | | | | usually a "roaming Romeo." He is a lady's |
| and empty wallets because of giving too much | | | | man in the truest sense. He is very charming |
| and not getting enough in return. In anguish | | | | and smooth. It's no secret that he has many |
| they reflect, "I don't understand what went | | | | women, but she wants to be the one woman who |
| wrong. I gave him everything I had. How | | | | conforms or reforms him into monogamy. This |
| could he have walked out on me after I took | | | | gives her a sense of being number one and |
| such good care of him?" | | | | having the edge over the others. In this |
| | | | case, she maintains him because she feels |
| What is extremely unfortunate and sad in | | | | special to be able to pry him away from other |
| these cases is, the women feel that they have | | | | women-he is her ego booster. |
| to earn a man's love by buying it. They do | | | | |
| not believe they are capable or worthy of | | | | 3. The Joy Boy. If you looked in the |
| being loved simply because of who they are, | | | | dictionary under "sex appeal," you would find |
| so they attempt to get the man's love by what | | | | this hunk described to the letter. He |
| they can give-in this case it's their | | | | possesses a sensuous and natural animal |
| hard-earned money. | | | | magnetism. He is clean yet rugged, rude yet |
| | | | alluring. He is an intoxicating blend of |
| Keep in mind, I'm not referring to a healthy | | | | fire and ice-with a mesmerizing sexual |
| give-and-take relationship where you help | | | | attraction that bids you "come hither." In |
| each other along the way; I'm talking about | | | | this case, she maintains him because he |
| the unbalanced, lopsided loving, where the | | | | satisfies her sexually-he is her sex object. |
| woman is the meal ticket for the type of guy | | | | |
| who just sits around and plan how to get paid | | | | 4. The Toy Boy. He is much younger than she |
| by always borrowing money from her and never | | | | is. She feels privileged because with all |
| paying back, or always "in-between" jobs, but | | | | the younger women out there, he has chosen to |
| never really working. The scheming gigolo | | | | be with her. In most cases, the woman has |
| gives decent men a rotten name and | | | | had to work hard all her life and never had a |
| unsuspecting women a rotten game. This | | | | chance to enjoy her own youth. He makes her |
| practice is more common than you can image. | | | | feel as if she is making up for what she |
| Many of the modern-day, macho gold-diggers | | | | missed earlier. She feels rejuvenated, |
| openly admit, "Why should I sweat at a | | | | vital, and young again. In this case, she |
| nine-to-five job when I can get a 'Honey' to | | | | maintains him because he helps to recapture |
| dish out some money?" | | | | her youth-he is her fountain of youth. |
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| To give you a deeper understanding and to | | | | If you're in a "pay for play" unhealthy |
| make sure you never get fooled into paying | | | | relationship where you are allowing yourself |
| for love, I've surveyed three hundred (300) | | | | to be used as a cash-machine for a gigolo, |
| women to find out what compelled them to pay | | | | stop fooling yourself that everything is |
| for a man's presence in their lives. Keep in | | | | hunky-dory. It won't be when the "hunk-y" |
| mind, some of the women surveyed have been | | | | walks out the "door-y" and leaves you broke, |
| jilted by men they have kept in the past, and | | | | alone, and sorry. Any time you have to pay a |
| others are presently in relationships with | | | | man to love you, no matter how subtle the |
| men they are financially supporting. I | | | | payment, something is wrong. Take stock of |
| received an interesting range of responses, | | | | yourself and place a high value on yourself. |
| but I have arranged them into four | | | | Realize that you deserve to have a |
| categories. Each of these personality types | | | | compassionate and compatible man who thinks |
| has either covertly or overtly persuaded the | | | | well enough of you to look out for your best |
| women to use finance to maintain his romance: | | | | interest-instead of one who tries to squeeze |
| | | | your finances dry like an orange in a juice |
| 1. The Cover Boy. He is incredibly handsome. | | | | extractor. Lose the user, and choose a |
| He is also referred to as a "pretty boy." | | | | champion because you deserve a healthy |
| She is swept away by his exceptionally good | | | | relationship! |